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The Mad-Eye Moody method of mindfulness practice

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Gretchen Rubin has a theory that we are all either abstainers or moderators. Abstainers find it easier to give something up entirely, and moderators can have a little bit of something and then stop.

When I first heard this theory, it made sense to me and I believed myself to be an abstainer. It’s true that the best way for me to not binge eat is to not have the foods that I tend to binge on in the house. But ultimately, this categorisation of myself wasn’t very helpful because it meant that if I did eat a piece of chocolate, I could justify eating the whole box because “I’m an abstainer so I actually can’t stop.” Then, feeling sick with sugar and shame, I would vow never to touch chocolate ever again. And I wouldn’t. Until the next time I ate far too much in one go.

Eventually, I decided to try just eating one piece of chocolate, or having a few spoonfuls of ice-cream without devouring the whole tub. And while it is difficult, I found that it is perfectly possible to put the food away and not finish it. After a while of doing this, it became easier to enjoy a small amount but know when to stop.

So, I much as I admire other things that Gretchen has to say, I’m calling bullshit on the abstainer-moderator theory because at it’s best it gives us an excuse not to try and change our behaviour, and at worst encourages the cycle of bingeing and purging. It reinforces the message that we are “just like this”, that there is no other way.
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A capsule wardrobe experiment (part 2)

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This is part two of my capsule wardrobe post. In the first post I talked about why I wanted to do a capsule wardrobe experiment, and the 7 steps I took to do it. This post is my “ideal wardrobe list” (steps 2-2), shopping list (step 4-5) and what I bought (step 7).

My April and May Capsule Wardrobe

Aims:

  1. to test out a new grown up style, for a short period of time and on a budget.
  2. to test out the benefits of having a capsule wardrobe.

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A capsule wardrobe experiment (part 1)

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Although I buy and discard clothes fairly regularly, my person style hasn’t changed much in the last ten years. It’s a little bit all over the place but is mostly leggings with dresses and boots, worn with layers of cardigans and scarves and beaded jewellery. These days, I’m feeling a bit of a disconnect. I am craving more simplicity – less colours and patterns. I am also just not wanting to dress in the same way as I did when I was in my early twenties. Now unable to deny that I am in fact, in the latter half of this decade (I turn 28 in June), I want to have a more grown up style.

Whenever I have felt inspired to change the way I dress in the past I have immediately rushed out on a shopping trip. I buy a few items that are “different” and then these items get put into my regular wardrobe and have generally been worn as part of a very familiar looking outfit. This time, I have approached it like the grown up I want to be: with stated aims, numbered lists, and a budget.
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How shopping bans are like diets, and throwing things away won’t fix you

Trigger warning for disordered eating (somewhat bizarrely, you might think, in an article about decluttering and shopping. But I often find that the way we relate to one thing is the way we relate to everything).

When it comes to clothes, I’m a shitty minimalist. Yes, I am good at throwing things away but I almost immediately buy new things.

In the same way that having a thin body doesn’t mean you have a healthy one, a small wardrobe does not mean simplicity. Over the past few years, there has been as much binging and purging of my clothes as their was five years ago with the food I ate (or didn’t).

Just like going on a diet has led to me restricting my calorie intake to unhealthily low levels, my pursuit of simplicity has led me to throw out things I now really miss.

In the same way that wanting desperately to loose weight led me to binge eat entire tubs of Ben and Jerry’s icecream, I managed to spend over £100 on clothes within a few weeks of my KonMari clearout.
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“What a pretty scarf!” Some things I learnt about keffiyehs and Palestine

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I seem to have accidentally stolen a scarf, having driven home wearing one that my mum lent me to keep warm while I was visiting at the weekend.

I don’t regret doing this as much as I should because a) I love it and b) it led to me learning something new this week that I’d like to share with you.
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What if there was no alternative?

A few weeks ago, my colleague was sharing her experiences of living in Malawi. Having gotten used to the slower pace of life in rural Africa, on her return to the UK she found herself wondering what everyone did to keep themselves busy all the time. “It’s amazing how much time people spend just dealing with their stuff,” she said.
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